How to Distinguish Between Sex & Love

Everyone should understand the difference between sex and love to make are good choice their relationship. It may not be an easy conversation to have, it's vitally important. But until now a lot people s till confusion.

Explaining Love

Step1

Teach your teen what real love is. Love is an emotion for another person and is not selfish. Love is thinking about the other person's wants and needs, not their own. Love means respecting the other person, and not pressuring them for his or her own wants.

Step2

Explain the different types of love we have as humans. First we have love for our parents, who have nurtured and protected us. We then have love of our siblings and relatives lik e grandparents. Finally, we have love for our husband or wife, and then we have love for our own children. These relationships are the basis for our knowledge and experience of real love.

Step3

Tell your teen that although there are many types of love, love does not need sex to survive or even thrive; as in the love they feel for their grandparents, best friends or a pet. Only when sex is combined with true love can it be a loving experience, such as when they are married. Sex should only be considered in an enduring and permanent relationship.

Explaining Sex

Step1

Explain to your teen that sex is a physical act, much like sneezing or coughing is. Tell them it is a very intimate experience, where another person is touching their most private parts.

Step2

Teach your teen that sex should be considered a special gift that should be given only to their life partner. Tell your child that sex, when combined with real love, is a beautiful experience and not to be taken lightly.

Step3

Explain that freely having sex with just anyone demeans him or her and their body. Teach your teen about self-respect and respecting others beliefs.

面具

女巫、野兽、天使、恶魔；红黄蓝青的；热情、活力、放纵或激情。想要怎样的面孔都可以，千百种面具构成缤纷多样化、欢乐愉悦的画面。最早使用面具的应该是玛雅古文明社会中的祭司，他们戴上代表神的面具，转达旨意来领导社会。而到了今日，面具的使用则更为广泛。如：化妆舞会需要它来点缀。
然而面具实际上谓着一种角色的转换。挑选自己喜欢的面具戴上，然后全然投入那个角色之中，暂时遗弃自己。这是一种自我的精神催眠，因为现实太令人沮丧了。所以宁愿相信自己是个拥有超能力的超人，可以锄强扶弱，赢得众人的掌声；或是主宰宇宙的僧人，无所不能，随心所欲。
有形的面具可以帮助人逃离现实、解放压力，但是当面具卸下，幻想也应该跟着结束。但是总有些人欲罢不能、越陷越深。他们继续在现实中带着无形的面具，扮演着陌生的自己。欣喜、怒骂、友善，但是虚伪的。唯一真实的是那颗麻木的心。前些时候，自己站立在镜子前仔细端详自己的脸，喔！不，那个不是脸，而是一层一层累积出来的面具。这些年来自己已经习惯带着他们。在开心的场合笑，感伤的时刻哭。自己随着人情的规则、气氛的变化抽换自己的面具，因时、因地制宜。于是自己赢得友情，爱情，称誉与欣赏。但却失去了纯真。
看着镜中虚伪的自己，即使难过。脸上也没有变化。自己强忍着痛楚试图将他们一张一张撕下，只要能够回到最初的童真。然而自己却发现当面具削尽，自己只有一张空白，没有眼、鼻、嘴，应该说。。。。。。没有脸。原来，虚伪早已入侵到此，腐蚀了自己的五官，或是因为自己遗弃而退化了。自己竟然天真的以为还能回到最真的净土。想哭，也忘记了该怎么样牵动的泪腺。
哭吧！也只能在心中哭了，哭完后，也许就真实了。


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